A few years of survey data appear to show trouble in paradise: According to a recent study, couples who met online were more likely to break up and less likely to get married. A third of relationships started online were over by the next year, while less than a quarter of those who’d met offline broke up over the same period. And married couples who originally met online were four times more likely to have gotten separated or divorced — 8 percent versus offline couples’ 2 percent.

Honeymoon’s Over: Online Daters Marry Less, Break Up More, Study Finds - NBC News.com

Communication in the 21st century has become increasingly multimodal," says Professor Carmen Lee, co-author of Language Online: Investigating Digital Texts and Practices. While the text-based Craigslist may still look the way it did in the late ’90s, the rest of the web now relies on images, both moving and still, to convey much of its information. MIT social scientist Sherry Turkle worries, however, that this is coming at the cost of literary fiction and conversations, which "deepen our empathic skills, the ability to identify with characters, and put yourself in the place of others." The web of today is full of stories, both fictional and real, but moving from reading "to a world where we share memes does not guarantee the same results. A life of visual memes is not enough.

What happens to literacy when the internet turns into a giant TV station? | The Verge

A study from AVAST published Wednesday found one in five men and one in four women admit to checking their partners’ smartphones without their consent. Surveying 13,132 respondents in the U.S., AVAST said a quarter of married women who did check their spouses’ phones did so out of suspicions of infidelity. However, most women did so “because they are nosey,” the company said.

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“We originally thought that young people would use Facebook and digital communication to stage-manage their lives,” said Wardle. That wasn’t the case. Candid messages are thrown into the digital ether without regard for their permanence or the number of eyeballs that can scrutinize them. “They found it much easier to articulate how they felt to each other honestly when they weren’t in the same room,” he said.

Not-so-secret lives on smartphones : Columbia Journalism Review

One of the rewards of more cooperation—and sometimes conflict—is that people are happier. In a clumsy, slow-moving organization, people become frustrated and disengaged because their work has no impact. Ironically, when you let conflict happen and sometimes encourage it, people get angry and fight with each other—and that makes them happier, because in the end they did difficult, important work that made a difference.

The surprising secret of happier, more productive organizations: conflict – Quartz

Carrozza has been doing prenuptial agreements for 10 years and only in recent months has she seen couples interested in including a social media clause. Carrozza said she does five so-called “love contracts,” or lifestyle provisions in prenups or post-nuptial agreements, per week and started offering social media clauses for those negotiations about two months ago. In that time, she said, about a third of her clients have been interested in having such a clause in writing. “It’s a huge issue because we all know this stuff, once it’s out there, you can’t shake it,” Carrozza said. “It can be humiliating. It can be painful. … It’s really no joke, and I expect this clause to become much more important with any of the other contracts.” A typical social media clause will state that couples can’t post nude photos, embarrassing photos or photos or posts that are likely to harm a spouse’s professional reputation, Carrozza said. Her clients don’t pick and choose between what’s acceptable for Facebook versus Instagram, but do more of a blanket provision for all social media. “There might be a bathing suit photo that might be particularly embarrassing,” Carrozza said. “Posting that would have to be cleared.”

I Love You, You’re Perfect, but Watch What You Facebook: Social Media Prenups - ABC News

My Librarian takes a big step toward humanizing the online library experience. It could also give the library a tactical advantage over online booksellers like Amazon.

The Oregonian reports on My Librarian, the coolest development in online readers’ advisory I’ve heard in ages, and at a Cloud Library, Multnomah County Library. 

From the story, which you should read from top to bottom:

My Librarian [is] an online tool that lets readers connect with a real-life librarian, without actually visiting a library branch. Instead, readers can build a relationship with one of 13 librarians through video chats, blogs and phone calls to discuss their favorite books.

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Ugh, I am sick with jealousy over how AMAZING this is.

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Multcolib was my first library, and I will miss it all my life. 

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You don’t begin a marriage by walking through a metal detector with two lawyers. Nor do I believe that you should end a marriage that way.

Now You Can File For Divorce Online With Wevorce, The H&R Block Of Nasty Breakups

Today not only can you find the love of your life online—now you can also divorce them.

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The ability to reach everyone I know in one place is no longer a novelty. We don’t want to see daily updates from everyone we meet in perpetuity.

Facebook’s friend problem | The Verge

Ellis Hamburger on why the social network can’t adapt to how we make (and lose) friends

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The data reveals a clear pattern: People are interested in people like themselves. Women on eHarmony favor men who are similar not just in obvious ways — age, attractiveness, education, income — but also in less apparent ones, such as creativity. Even when eHarmony includes a quirky data point — like how many pictures are included in a user’s profile — women are more likely to message men similar to themselves. In fact, of the 102 traits in the data set, there was not one for which women were more likely to contact men with opposite traits. Men were a little more open-minded. For 80 percent of traits, they were more willing to message those different from them. They still preferred mates who were similar in terms of height or attractiveness, but they cared less about these traits — and they didn’t care much at all about other things women cared about, like similarity in education level or number of photos taken. They cared less about whether their match shared their ethnicity.

In the End, People May Really Just Want to Date Themselves | FiveThirtyEight